I am lost

Last night I had a conversation that has saddened me a lot.

I have a couple of friends that have been abused physically and mentally, in their previous/current marriages, relationships, or civil unions, or just simple relationships.

How can you help these ladies?

How can you get them to understand that they don’t deserve this, NO ONE does.

Especially when you love someone and you can see all the mistakes they are making, and you try to tell them, open their eyes, but you can’t nag them nor argue with them, cause that would be the last thing I could do. I can’t do such thing. All I can do is listen and cry and pray that maybe one day, they will realize how precious they are.

I was reading leathermenace’s post http://leathermenace.multiply.com/

And she said the following “I've always felt, and no doubt always will, that when you love someone you will want to make their time on this world easier, and that their feelings will matter just as much as yours do to you.

Love is so easy to recognize and yet so many people are fooled by a bastardized form of love, that it is truly disheartening.

Why do we so often compromise, on what we are willing to accept as love?

Why do we so often settle for something so far from love that is unmistakably not love? Are people everywhere so afraid that love will not find them, that they are willing to settle for being ignored, forgotten, overlooked, mistreated, and even abused?

And Why are people so willing to settle for someone that they don't love so often that they find themselves being the one who is ignoring, forgetting, overlooking, mistreating, and even abusing someone they say they love?”

I also truly believe that loving someone is making their lives easier, more loved, and respected, and on my side to feel loved and respected.

How do you …GOD I NEED YOUR HELP!!!!

How do I let this woman understand that she doesn’t deserve this life, that she should be treated like a loved woman, mom, friend, partner...etc.

How do I tell her that she needs to let GOOD into her life and NOT push it away.

I am so LOST.

I know I am a butch, and suppose to be strong and what not, and I am I guess up to a certain point, but I can’t stop crying. I want to help and I don’t know how.

So please tell me, tell me how and what can I do?

I know some of you don’t comment, but I really need some guidance.

Last night I went to church and prayed. I am not a religious person, but I am desperate for some light, some way to heal these two women.

Help!